When in a relationship things go wrong we always look for the answer outside- ask friends, look what characters in famous TV shows do or explore the other options we have. But how can we know if these advises are right for us, or the new people we could meet would be better match for us? If we don’t know how to keep a relationship now how can we expect to do better with the next one? It’s easy to run away of the problems, but is this a solution?
First when things go wrong ask yourself if you really want this relationship, why did you start and how did you see him then- what made you fall in love with him? It helps to see his positives and the positives of the relationship. If you don’t see the one u fell in love with but someone else u don’t love any more, face it - it’s time to go.
If you want to keep what you have, if you think it’s something valuable, then be strong, as you know “There’s no shortcut to any where it worth going”.
Don’t you exaggerate? Think of if the argument you have is really a problem. He didn’t return your text messaged, or forgot to tell you how beautiful you looked today… it’s not a big deal.
If you were him? What would you do then? Don’t ask for more than you can give him. Or may be he really can’t do what you want him to, may be you ask for too much, think of it.
May be he’s going through a bad period. Just wait for a while. It might be just a bad time for him and soon things will go back to normal. Just think how many times you had bad days or whole weeks… Try to be nice with him, support him, give him a reason to love you.
He can’t read your mind. Men and women are equal, but different. So when you feel bad about something, just find an appropriate moment and talk to him. Don’t complain, don’t convince him just tell him the way you feel. Good communication means good relationship.
May be he’s mad at you about something. You might did something wrong, you might said something wrong… or somehow made him feel bad about you. Try to show him how much you care about him, make him a little surprise. Remember what he likes- the way you look in some of your dresses, food, wine or whatever makes him feel good. Candles and nice lingerie are always useful. And don’t forget to say how you love him.
If non of these works, leave him a goodbye note and run away! If you do your best and he can’t appreciate, go and give all that to someone who would! Sometimes you must end and start over again. Don’t be afraid to leave if you feel unhappy, world is full of men and may be one of them is yours waiting to find him.
No comments:
Post a Comment