A friend in need is a friend indeed?

Human being is a social animal, we live in communities with other people like us in general, but very different when you look closer. Everyone is completely different than the other ones by race, sex, age, place he lives they all have different level of health, beauty, success, money, happiness, intelligence in different stages of their lives.

This social animal form groups of its kind ones by random criteria, usually ground they have to share- neighborhood, office, school, gym ext. And these human beings always compare themselves with the other ones in their community, that’s how they define themselves for happy or sad, successful, rich, beautiful, good, intelligent and so on. Why people can’t be happy for what they have without looking into the other’s lives? Sometimes you realize how happy you are and what you have when you see a friend of yours loosing it. That makes you say “Thank God it’s not me”. You can have a normal live with you car, but one day your neighbor buys a brand new car and that makes you start thinking :”I need a new car too, and it has to be better than my neighbor’s”. If you have a happy relationship with your co-worker or a man like you, but your best friend starts dating a rich handsome one much more successful than your boyfriend, why you start feeling like a looser?

It is in our human nature to be helpful, loving and caring to the others. People with these qualities are considered for noble and respectful in the society, it’s a compensating mechanism- good that comes back around. You can see how popular charity is now days and how good we all feel when we feed stray dog, help old lady or just do friend a favor that doesn’t take us anything- “I’m the hero of the day”.

But what happens when someone else is the hero of the day? And how sincere we are when we say “Congratulations, I’m happy for you!”. Looks like it takes more effort than to help a friend in need, especially when our friend has something we were struggling to achieve. That’s the real testing for friends indeed- how fragile friendship is when envy and jealous come! Can we really have friends without taking them for a competition?