Thursday, October 29, 2009

Relationships today

Have u ever thought how rare happy relationships are today? Opportunities for singles are getting more and more every day- clubs, dating sites, communication gets easier, people get more tolerant, there are no prejudices and moral as there were before, looks like people have all of the necessary conditions to find and chose their partner and to build a successful relationship. But walking on the street, talking to friends, reading in forums we can see our expectations are in vain. Why?


- - Work too much. Have u noticed that many of your young, educated colleagues from work and university are sill single, but the cleaning lady is married and has children, like your hair stylist and the bus driver, is it coincidence? We are too busy developing our career, improving ourselves- language courses, extra computer skills, gym, yoga, reading news and useful researches. Money we make gives us freedom to enjoy expensive hobbies and traveling, that tale the little spare time we have. The more successful we get our requirements for our partners grow.

- Too many requirements! People always overestimate themselves. Don’t trust me? Ok, go the ugliest girl you know and ask her if she thinks she‘s ugly. Then go to the cleaning lady and ask her if she’s stupid, she’ll tell u it was bad luck she didn’t get better job, not because she’s just not good enough for something better. So, no matter how things look everyone thinks he deserves more than he gets. And in case we have so many opportunities to meet Mr./Miss Perfect why should we waste our time with someone who “doesn’t deserve me”.

- Incapable of compromises! Life is full of options for everything- from education and career to the color of our hair and eyes. So when something doesn’t work for us, we just take another one.

- Selfish! No one will admit he/she is selfish, but before you say it, think twice! When was the last time you tried to walk into the other’s shoes? How many times when you have arguments you try to imagine what would you do if you were the other one in that situation? You know what you want, but have you ever thought how much you can give to the other one? You want happiness, but are you sure you can make someone happy?

- Too busy! So much work has to be done, so many hobbies and entertainments that doesn’t take as much as relationship does. You have friends and co-workers to talk to and they have the same interests as you do. You can have sex everywhere today with a good looking girl/boy. Why should you waste your time listening to his/her problems, spending time with his/her friends, sharing his/her interests?

- Afraid to take risks! We are trying to make the world more secure place to live in. We try to plan everything and have as many insurances as possible. We hate taking risks and let in something there’s no rules. Relationship is taking the risk to be hurt, betrayed and abandon. He/she might get into our life and break our heart, why should give him/her that chance? Unfortunately we see so many relationships fall apart, families get divorced… may be we have a reason to be afraid.

- It costs money. Money and feelings has nothing in common, yes and Santa Claus will bring you a nice present for Christmas! Just think how much your best friends make? What a coincidence, not much more and less than you do! Why don’t you have friends who are beggars? Or are some of your friends shopping in Milan, skiing in Switzerland, takes his girlfriend/boyfriend to date in Paris? It’s not because of the money, it’s just because you wouldn’t have anything in common… hmm looks like money mean much more then people dare to admit. So just think how much a relationship costs- flowers, dinners, birthday presents, Christmas presents, if you sum all that for a year you can buy a car for that much, does it worth?

- Afraid of responsibilities! Even I find my soul mate, we love each other, we feel happy, what then? We are supposed to take the next steps? Engagement, marriage, family, children- mother in law, dippers, chores? I have to be there when he/she is sick, mad, in bad mood, to share her/his failures. No more hanging out with friends, going to vacation without her/him, you have to discuss with her/him all of your decisions. Who wants to change his independence with obligations?


Looks like contemporary life is too complicated for relationships. May be we think more than we feel, we feel afraid more than we believe, the more we get, the less we risk. Will love become a fable? It’s all on us, we have many chances in our lives and if we find ourselves unhappy some day, will we be able to say: “I did my best”?


Monday, October 26, 2009

Memories of Italy

Passion, romance, history, beauty- that's what Italy is known with. That's how I'll remember my Italian vacation:
1st stop- Naples
Hahah I have just arrived in the hotel and I'm ready for sightseeing.









A beautiful view of Naples bay.










2nd stop- Pompei












3th stop- Sorrento
Great place that brings me back great memories!









A great place to enjoy a glass of wine next to the swimming pool with that beautiful view.











4th stop- The Isle of Capri











the Blue Cave












the Arch of Love









5th step- Rome
Everyone knows what is it :)





















It's always more beautiful at night!








































I have many pictures, but the brightest one is in my heart!

Memories of Greece



Here are some videos from the time when I was modeling. I was working in Greece for a month and here are some memories I keep.



And here we are getting ready for the cat walk tonight:


U might not see me, but I was the one that was taking that video, so there was no way to be on it :)














































And it all sounds with a song that was very popular there at that time:

Love life hints & tips

Has the spark extinguished or is it just flickering? Use these handy suggestions to rekindle the flame in your relationship and fire up your love life again!
Quality not quantity: spend time together, not just being in the same place together, but sharing things with each other - chatting, preparing a meal together, watching a film that you both enjoy, or going for a walk.
Wine and dine: there's nothing better than going out for a meal together. Find an intimate restaurant with soft candle lighting and cosy tables or booths where you can be alone together in romantic surroundings.
Whisper sweet nothings: it's easy to fall into the trap of taking your partner for granted after a while and forgetting those magic words. Say ˜I love you" and et your partner know how special they are to you. A poem or song or little note left on their pillow is a passionate gesture.
Get away: leave all your worries behind you by going away for the weekend together. It needn't be an exotic location- just far enough away to give you peace and quiet together.Kisses and cuddles: remember the passionate embraces and spontaneous sex that you once enjoyed? The intensity of your physical relationship can often die down after being together for a long time as you get stuck in a routine and other pressures and responsibilities take over. Make sure that you schedule time to be alone together - have an early night, buy some sexy lingerie, spice things up with some toys and games and surprise your partner by being spontaneous.
Talk to each other: most importantly, remember to communicate with each other. It may seem obvious, but communication can easily break down in a long-term relationship. If you don't tell your partner what's on your mind, how will they know what's wrong and what to do about it? Talk openly and honestly with each other about how you are feeling. Every relationship goes through difficult patches but these can be resolved by sharing problems with each other and tackling them together.
On the cards: sometimes you need a little spiritual guidance to help you find the direction you're looking for. The insight offered by tarot readings can help you do understand your relationship and lead you towards greater emotional wellbeing in your love life.



source:http://www.yourlovelife.co.uk/love_life_hints_and_tips_2_love_tarot_1.html

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Me trough the years

When I was a little child I couldn't wait to grow up and experience life I have only watched on TV
Here I am about the age of 7.














Time was passing and day by day, I was turning to a teenager:
Here I am with my sister. I'm about 13 years old.
















Then I became a silly teenager:

I like red color very much!














Here I'm with my sister again.












Then I have graduated school, I had many friends and life seemed to be a great challenge:
I'm the red hired girl wearing white.













Then somehow I've became a model:
It was a great time! Lot of fun with nice girls, traveling, party all the time. Modeling is a dream of every little girl, so in a way I was blessed I had the chance to experience that dream coming true.







But everything in our life has its positives and negatives. What gives u one, takes another. Modeling was great job while I was studying in university.








So it was time to start a serious job and enter the world of adults:

Here I'm getting ready for a formal party of the company I work for.















I'm still a party girl and I make some time for having fun with the girls:














I was Italy this summer.
It was a great time, vacation I will never forget!


















Who knows what else is waiting for me... There were many failures and bad moments in my life, but I'm still positive and somehow I believe some dreams might come true and life has its beauty!

Friday, October 23, 2009

Compromise in a Relationship


Compromising is an Important Relationship Skill

Compromising is very much like setting boundaries, or drafting an agreement or honoring a commitment. These are basic skills for life in general and are important skills for a successful relationship with co-workers, friends and also love relationships.

Knowing how to compromise is a key component to a healthy and relationship of any type that you hope will last a long time or perhaps a lifetime. Without the willingness and ability to compromise, your work, friendship and committed relationships can be at risk for failure. If you have experienced failed relationships in your past, now is the time to break those old habits and create new ones.

Too many people feel that compromise takes away from who they are as an individual, or is a sign of weakness or makes them appear to be the passive partner in a relationship. Compromise is nothing like that at all unless you make the wrong compromises!

What are ‘wrong compromises'? Wrong compromises are where you have you suffered a loss when you compromised with someone. If a compromise makes you feel taken advantage of or wronged then it is not a healthy compromise in any type of relationship.

Keep in mind when making a compromise you need to keep three key elements in play:

  1. Mutual respect for all involved
  2. Complete honesty in how you feel and think
  3. Good intentions and good will for all involved

Before you compromise with anyone about anything, create some basic ‘rules' or guidelines that each person agrees to and will honor during the conversation regarding what you are trying to compromise on. Below are a few you can use or modify to fit your relationship.

  • It is unacceptable to all parties involved that anyone will experience a substantial loss.
  • It is crucial to the success of the compromise that each person trust that the other will not take advantage of him or her or otherwise harm the other(s) in any way.
  • It is a mutual agreement that each person involved commits to as close to a win/win result as is possible.
  • Neither person will agree to a compromise if he or she thinks or feels they can not or will not be able to live with the compromise.

Be sure to add any others that will help you become willing and able to compromise. Write them down if that helps keep everyone on the same page. Update them as your relationship progresses and perhaps your thoughts and feelings on issues change.

There should be no room for fears or past behavior. No one in any relationship wants to deal with an old, injured part of you! Put those past behaviors and thought patterns behind you and create a fresh new mindset for all your future relationships!

Become the full expression of your passionate, loving and wonderful self. Repair the disillusionment and disappointment from the past by trusting yourself to make the right choices, seeking counsel if you feel you are not making a right choice and be totally open and honest with those you have relationships with whether in a work, personal friendship or love relationship situation.

Become willing to be your best self in the here and now and act from your authentic, integrated self. You're worth it!

source: http://hubpages.com/hub/Compromise_in_a_Relationship


Do we ask for too much?


It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber

11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive

28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
54. Never to forget:

  • birthdays

  • anniversaries

  • arrangements she makes.
  • Easy!


    source: http://www.jumbojoke.com/how_to_make_a_woman_happy.html

    Sunday, October 18, 2009

    10 signs you’re definitely over him


    1. You call him by his real name, instead of referring to him as ‘my future husband’ or ‘the bastard’.

    2.He’s not the first person you call when you get promoted/drunk/home. In fact, you no longer call him, full stop.

    3.You bump into him in the supermarket, when you’re wearing an old jumper and no makeup, and you don’t even feel remotely self-conscious.

    4.You don’t turn around when you smell a guy wearing his aftershave on the bus.

    5.You see a couple walking along hand-in-hand and don’t think they’re a) soppy, b) about to have a fight, or c) probably cheating on each other.

    6.You realise his habit of leaving dirty pants in your room wasn’t a manly way of marking his territory, it was just plain unhygienic.

    7.You find an old photo of the two of you and notice how good your hair looked.

    8.When ‘your song' comes on the radio, you sing to it in a special helium voice, like something out of The Chipmunks, and laugh until your face aches.

    9.You sell the jewellery he gave you on eBay, and are pleased to make a profit - even if it's only £3.70 for the whole lot.

    10.You get on better with his new girlfriend than you do with him.


    by Cosmopolitan Magazine 09.08.2006


    Wednesday, October 14, 2009

    Interview with God


    I dreamed I had an interview with God. "Come in" God said. "So, you would like to interview Me?"
    "If you have the time," I said.
    God smiled and said:
    "My time is eternity and is enough to do everything; What questions do you have in mind to ask me?"
    "What surprises you most about mankind?"
    God answered:
    "That they get bored of being children, are in a rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.
    "That they lose their health to make money and then lose their money to restore their health.
    "That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live neither for the present nor the future.
    God's hands took mine and we were silent for awhile and then I asked... "As a parent, what are some of life's lessons you want your children to learn?" God replied with a smile: "To learn that what is most valuable is not what they have in their lives, but who they have in their lives. "To learn that there are persons that love them dearly, but simply do not know how to express or show their feelings. "To learn that money can buy everything but happiness. "To learn that two people can look at the same thing and see it totally different. "To learn that a true friend is someone who knows everything about them...and likes them anyway. "To learn that it is not always enough that they be forgiven by others, but that they have to forgive themselves."
    I sat there for awhile enjoying the moment. I thanked Him for his time and for all that He has done for me and my family, and He replied,

    "Anytime. I'm here 24 hours a day. All you have to do is ask for me, and I'll answer."


    Source: http://www.llerrah.com/interviewwithgod.htm


    Tuesday, October 13, 2009

    New Day Quote


    This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is
    important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When
    tomorrow comes, this day will be... gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good.

    Funny: What are men like



    Men are like..... Coffee.
    The best ones are rich, warm, full-bodied, and can keep you up all night long.
    Men are like..... Commercials.
    You can't believe a word they say.
    Men are like..... Computers.
    Hard to figure out and never have enough memory.
    Men are like..... Coolers.
    Load them with beer and you can take them anywhere.
    Men are like..... Copiers.
    You need them for reproduction, but that's about it.
    Men are like..... Bananas.
    The older they get, the less firm they are.
    Men are like..... Bank Accounts.
    Without a lot of money, they don't generate interest.
    Men are like..... Snowstorms.
    You never know when he's coming, how many inches you'll get or how long he will last.
    Men are like..... Used Cars.
    Both are easy-to-get, cheap, and unreliable.
    Men are like..... Government bonds.
    They take so long to mature.
    Men are like..... High heels.
    They're easy to walk on once you get the hang of it.
    Men are like..... Horoscopes.
    They always tell you what to do and are usually wrong.
    Men are like..... Weather.
    Nothing can be done to change either one of them.
    Men are like..... Blenders.
    You need one, but you're not quite sure why.
    Men are like..... Lava lamps.
    Fun to look at, but not all that bright.
    Men are like..... Mini skirts.
    If you're not careful, they'll creep up your legs.
    Men are like..... Plungers.
    They spend most of their lives in a hardware store or the bathroom.


    Source: http://www.blakjak.demon.co.uk/gex_mnal.htm

    Monday, October 12, 2009

    My weekend trip



    My weekend trip in Bulgaria.